Couple Therapy

Structure of counselling - Couple with counsellor

There are many reasons why couples attend therapy at Core Connections.

It could be because a couple are: Separated and thinking about reconciling ~ Deliberating about whether they should end the relationship ~ At the beginning of their relationship and have a few concerns they would like to raise before they become issues ~ Experiencing conflict and want to explore ways to deescalate the growing tensions prior to the situation spiraling out of control ~ Require mediation. Or they may want to:~ Learn about what triggers certain behaviours/emotions and find healthier ways of interacting ~ Heal old or recent wounds ~ Understand why their partner is having / or has had an affair ~ Reconnect ~ Stop their cycles and patterns ~ And many more.

Our Aim

Core Connections is here to assist you in your journey to reevaluate, rediscover, and reconnect.

A quote in Deborah Anna Luepnitz's (2002), 'Schopenhauer's Porcupines: Intimacy and Its Dilemmas', describes the perplex nature of relationships and the struggle couples face in trying to balance togetherness and separateness.

'A troop of porcupines is milling about on a cold winter's day. In order to keep from freezing, the animals move closer together. Just as they are close enough to huddle, however, they start to poke each other with their quills. In order to stop the pain, they spread out, lose the advantage of commingling, and begin to shiver. This sends them back in search of each other, and the cycle repeats as they struggle to find a comfortable distance between entanglement and freezing'.

We live in confusing times when the entanglement of pre-modern and post-modern couple relationships are still very much intertwined.

There's a growing number of dual career families being exposed to uncharted terrains; Males and females encroaching into one another’s territories of predisposed expertise, generating confusion and displacement.